By Paolo Cruz
Listening to The Dorques is a bit like staring into a kaleidescope. No, scratch that -- it's more like riding a shopping cart at warp speed through an empty hypermarket. It's a mess of colors and sensations, whizzing by you. It's a little disorienting, but in a good way. You just know there's a method to all this insanity, but you're too caught up to figure it out, really. You're surrounded by a veritable marketplace of audio pleasures, from all over the world. One moment it's spoken word in Nihonggo, before giving way to a manic indie rock hook. By the next song, it may be a country-tinged boogie, or dirty French pop.
The key difference is that you'd never feel alone with this bunch. Joffy Cruz is the de facto ringmaster, a sven gali, frontman, guitar hero, and rodeo clown, all wrapped up in a lanky six-foot-plus frame. His song-writing is the glue holding it all together. Arnel Fabiana radiates effortless cool, his funky bass lines providing a solid bottom end. Tani Santos brings his "New New Wave" pedigree to the band, armed with a recent history of twinning synth-driven punk with organic guitar work. Nina Beltran turns on the charm, tinkling away at the keyboard with reckless abandon, even as she coos in Japanese over the electronic melodies. And did I mention that she's a dead ringer for Maggie Gyllenhaal, if she were a perky chinita?
It's no wonder they've gained such a dedicated following. Of course, tireless gigging helps. So does a healthy online buzz, via websites like MySpace, Multiply, AMP by Channel [V], Odyssey Live!, and the Nokia Independent Artists Club.
Well, then... are you ready for a Dorquegasm yet?
 | BFF | Jun 28, '08 10:58 PM
for everyone |
 coz we're both from Marikina.. we're BFF.. Bayani Fernando Forevah!! haha!! corny!! 
Paquito Diaz: oh pare! bakit sayo kumakandong!? Eddie Garcia: pare, para sayo toh.. Dencio Padilla: eh yun naman pala eh... Paquito Diaz: oh pare! bakit bumubulong pa si pareng Manoy!? ayoko na uwi na ko! Eddie Garcia: pare, di mo talaga ako naintindihan, nililigawan ko para sayo.. Dencio Padilla: eh yun naman pala eh...
You've had feelings for your friend for a while and you're worried about crossing the line and ruining the friendship. That's not really true, of course, but that's what you keep telling yourself so you can justify not putting yourself on the line and risking rejection. Sure -- it's possible to love a friend of the opposite sex without picturing him or her in bed. Having feelings for your friend doesn't necessarily prove Harry's theory in "When Harry Met Sally" who famously declared that "No man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her." There are exceptions to Harry's rule, but one thing is certain -- being seen as just a friend by all the people you want to date can be frustrating. So here are a few ways to prevent being stuck in (cue scary music): 'The Friend Zone': 1. Do FlirtIt's okay if romance is on your brain when you greet your friend. In fact, it can fuel the chemistry. It's good for your friend to catch you subtly checking him or her out. As long as you're not drooling or gawking, it can be sexy. You want your friend to think he or she imagined the look. Light touching and sincere and specific compliments are great for flirting, too. 2. Don't Be the Problem SolverAre you on speed dial every time your friend needs something fixed or wants to process a bad relationship? It's nice to help your friend occasionally, but make sure you're not the one he or she associates with problems. If you do come over to help, mention that you're happy to assist for an hour but have plans after that. Better to remain a little mysterious and have your friend wondering who else is getting your attention. 3. Have FunCreate unique memories. You're aware of your friend's passions, so initiate fun and interesting activities that you know your friend will enjoy but isn't doing with others. And -- if someone has dumped you, confide in a friend you don't have feelings for! Remember to keep an upbeat attitude and stay confident -- those are two of the most attractive qualities cited by singles when looking for a mate. Of course, not every friendship ends with a romantic happy ending and you may have to be prepared that your crush just wants to stay your friend. You'll have to decide if that's enough for you. In the meantime, if you feel like you often end up in the friend zone with people you want to date, plant some of these seeds and see if anything grows in your relationship. Sometimes a glass of wine or a flirtatious exchange can change the dynamic... and you look at each other and wonder why it took so long.
...is never been a weakness, its so happen that you don't want the listener will know what you are hiding or what's your secret that you gonna make him/her angry/hurt when he/she knew it. 
| PSEUDO | Jun 2, '08 2:59 PM
for everyone |
A FORWARD EMAIL 3 YEARS AGO... She is a 24-year old copywriter. He is an architect. They met and became lovers in college. They broke up last year but remained to be "friends." They send sweet text messages and he calls her often to make sure she's okay. They still date. They still have sex. They don't see anyone else. It is obvious that they still love each other but when asked about their situation, she doesn't know the real score. Even her friends are in the dark. "Parang sila, pero hindi." She works in a telecom. He is reviewing for the board. They are in the same barkada. They talk on the phone till 4 am. He gives her chocolates, flowers and CDs even when there is no occasion. Their friends are suspecting something. Bakit sila nagsosolo kapag may overnight inuman? Why does he hold her close on the dance floor? Bakit sila magkaholding hands lagi? Sila kaya? "He hasn't admitted anything," she rants. "But I let him hug and kiss me. Parang kami, pero hindi." They work together in an ad agency. After office, they would watch movie, have dinner and stroll at Glorietta. She gave his Harry Potter books for His birthday in exchange for posing as her boyfrienD to make an ex jealous. They made out during the company outing in Subic and never talked about it. He said "I love you" once but she wasn't sure if she heard him correctly because they were both drunk then. But one thing she is sure of is herfeelings for him. She likes him. And she' assuming that with what he's doing to her and with her, he likes her, too. There's just one hitch: he Has a girlfriend! She is a 28-year-old virgin. He's a 35-year-old bachelor. Both mountaineers, they became close during their climbs. After a few dates in posh restaurants, he brings her to his condo where they would make out. They have been doing this for months. She wants to believe that "sila na" but then she's not really sure about it. "We don't talk about it but it doesn't really matter," she'd tell her friends. "What's important is I am enjoying this -- whatever it is." The "parang kayo, pero hindi" stage. Others call it MU or mutual understanding. Pseudo-relationships. Pseudo-boyfriends. Flings. Almost Like a relationship, but not quite. It is a phase where the persons involved are more than friends, but not quite lovers. Puwedeng may verbal agreement, puwedeng wala. One or both of you may have admitted your feelings, possible ding hindi. You just let your gestures do the talking for you. Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari. Hindi kayo mag-dyowa. Pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi. This kind of "relationship" can happen at different stages for different reasons. It can happen after a break-up. You still love each other, and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. And for reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan. It can also happen before a relationship, iyong pareho kayong nakikiramdam. Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna. Testing lang. Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo kasi isa sainyo --usually the guy --may ka-relasyon na. Kaya habang hindi pa siya nakikipag-break doon sa girl (sabi niya makikipag-break siya soon pero di naman niya ginagawa), wala muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya nangagaliwa kasi "hindi naman kayo." This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can be fun. Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman ng "kalaro." Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala talagang kasiguraduhan. So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa ganitong set up ganoong hindi naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan? Iba't ibang dahilan. Puwedeng for fun lang. Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa wala" or puwede na iyang "pantawid-gutom". Meaning, habang wala pa iyong The real thing, doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian. For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think that pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship at all. It would be fun, if all you are after for is that "kilig" feeling. Aminado naman ako na once upon a time, may mga pseudo-relationships din ako. No commitments involved. For the simplest reason that they couldn't commit, because they were either committed to someone else, or that they weren't ready to commit. My rationalization, "okay na iyun, kesa wala." Ang habol ko lang naman, iyong kilig feeling. Iyong merong nagtatanong kung kumusta araw ko. Iyong merong ka-cuddle sa beach outing. Iyong kapag tumunog ang cellphone, mapapangiti na ako dahil alam kong galing sa kanya ang message. Iyong merong laging kasama. Habang wala pa ang the real thing, puwede na itong pagtiyagaan. But then I learned that although it was only a pseudo-relationship, the emotions were real. And usually, in this kind of set up, ang babae lagi ang lugi. Una, you can't ask him to commit. Since it's not really a relationship, you can't demand commitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo? May K ka nga ba magpasundo ng hatinggabi? You will always be uncertain about your role in his life. You can't expect him to be always there with you. And if you feel jealous of the other girls, you just have to keep it to yourself. Ano ka ba niya para magselos? Pangalawa, what if you fall deeply in love with him? You can't be sure if he feels the same way. Baka nag-a-assume ka lang na mahal ka rin niya. Even if you are dying to tell him you love him, you can't. Because you're not sure if he'll like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang. This stage will always make you wonder where you are in the relationship. Or if there is a relationship at all. Pangatlo, what if you become attached too much? What if you have invested all your emotions and this man hasn't? What if you remain faithful to him, not entertaining other guys, only to find out that he is seeing other girls? Isa pang downside ng pseudo-relationships, it is fleeting. When a disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would be the end of it. Unlike in a serious relationship, hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship. Wala kang pinanghahawakan. Kasi sa pseudo-relationship, there is no "us." Meron lang "you and me," hindi "us." Buti sana kung pseudo-pain din lang ang mararanasan mo. Kaso, hindi eh. Real pain. And usually, kahit tapos na ang pseudo-relationship, hindi mo maiwasan umasang one day, may karugtong pa rin iyun. And you will be miserable, hoping to bring back what you used to have, only to find out eventually that the guy is in another pseudo-relationship with somebody else. Ang hirap, ano? You agreed to this kind of set up for fun and then you'd end up hurting yourself in the process. Pero puwede naman maiwasan ang pain eh. Puwede naman na hindi mo muna isipin ang future and just enjoy the feeling, without thinking of the consequences. But if you are certain that you are going to hurt yourself in the process, kailangan mo mamili. You can be happy and live the moment without worrying what would happen next. Or you can stop settling with pseudo-relationships and wait for the real thing. When I was younger and in a pseudo-relationship with an unavailable guy, a friend told me, "Sige, kung ayaw mong magpapigil, bahala ka. Magpakasaya ka. Pero huwag kang iiyak-iyak pagkatapos, dahil tatadyakan kita." Ang bottom line lang naman, kung magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo. Ihanda mo lang ang sarili mo sa consequence. Dahil ang "parang kayo pero hindi" stage ay bihirang nagiging totoo. Usually, hanggang doon lang siya? almost, but not quite. *this is also applicable to men..
June 1, 2005 around 6am, i met an accident going home here in marikina just 60 meters away from our house.. .. paano ba naman, nakaharang yung poste ng meralco, kaya ayun, nabangga ko, hehe.. sa sobrang antok at lakas ng impact sa poste, nagising nalang ako 10 meters away from the meralco post (but of course nasa loob parin ako ng sasakyan).. ang makulit pa dun, nagtataka ako kung bakit nakailaw parin yung handbreak sa dashboard eh binaba ko na yung handbreak, haha! nagulat nalang ako at wasaque na yung front-right part ng sasakyan, as in sobra!! ang lesson.. dont celebrate if its not ur bday, but if you will, dont drink and drive.. GOD BLESS THE SEATBELT ! !
** try kong hanapin yung pix ng sasakyan
SAAN KA PA!!??
5 vehicles away ka lang sa security & safety office nila, nanakawan ka pa ng bukas-kotse.. ang malabo pa nun, yung head ng security parking nila na si JUANITO MANIGCAD hindi nya alam na pwede palang buksan ang sasakyan sa pamamagitan ng ALAMBRE.. dahil hindi pa daw nya nagagawa or na eexperience yun, hindi daw nya alam.. dapat bang maging magnanakaw ka para malaman mo yun!!!??? sino sa mga contacts ko ang hindi alam na kayang buksan ng alambre ang isang sasakyan!!?? wala naman daw evidence na may force na ginamit, kailangan bang basagin ang salamin ng sasakyan or maging invisible ka or may kakaiba kang gadget para makuha mo lang yung laman ng sasakyan!!?? wala talagang ka kaalam-alam about security and safety itong si JUANITO MANIGCAD na ito.. ang daming kabobohang hirit na tulad ng
BOBO: baka yung nagpabukas kayo ng sasakyan dati (2yrs ago) sya rin yung nagbukas nyan?
TANI: eh boss,ang tagal na nun, sobrang tyaga naman nya at sinundan pa talaga nya yung sasakyan nmin (na 1995 model pa)..
BOBO: ser, sa hirap ng buhay ngayon kahit sa drainage susundan ka..
PUCHA!! anung nasa isip nito!!?? anung hirit yun!!?? naka acetone ba toh!!??
wala na akong masabi, hindi kasi ako marunong mag blog talaga.. isip pa kong raket pambili sa mga nawala..
SAAN KA PA!!??
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